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The Secret to a Lasting Marriage: Embrace Imperfection

Posted on Aug 31, 2007 under forwarded mail, inspirational | No Comment
Thought this is worth sharing to all the married couples out there and soon to be married couples.

The Secret to a Lasting Marriage: Embrace Imperfection
Deb Graham - Contributor

When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work.

On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned toast in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my mom, and ask me how my day was at school.

I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that toast and eat every bite! When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the toast. And I’ll never forget what he said: “Baby, I love burned toast.”

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, “Debbie, your momma put in a hard day at work today and she’s real tired. And besides-a little burnt toast never hurt anyone!”

In bed that night, I thought about that scene at dinner and the kindness my daddy showed my mom. To this day, it’s a cherished memory from my childhood that I’ll never forget. And it’s one that came to mind just recently when Jack and I sat down to eat dinner.

I had arrived home late as usual and decided we would have breakfast food for dinner. Some things never change, I suppose!

To my amazement, I found the ingredients I needed, and quickly began to cook eggs, turkey sausage, and buttered toast. Thinking I had things under control, I glanced through the mail for the day. It was only a few minutes later that I remembered that I had forgotten to take the toast out of the oven!

Now, had it been any other day — and had we had more than two pieces of bread in the entire house — I would have started all over. But it had been one of those days and I had just used up the last two pieces of bread. So burnt toast it was!

As I set the plate down in front of Jack, I waited for a comment about the toast. But all I got was a “Thank you!” I watched as he ate bite by bite, all the time waiting for some comment about the toast. But instead, all Jack said was, “Babe, this is great. Thanks for cooking tonight. I know you had a hard day.”

As I took a bite of my charred toast that night, I thought about my mom and dad how burnt toast hadn’t been a deal-breaker for them. And I quietly thanked God for giving me a marriage where burnt toast wasn’t a deal-breaker either!

You know, life is full of imperfect things and imperfect people. I’m not the best housekeeper or cook. And you might be surprised to find out that Jack isn’t the perfect husband! He likes to play his music too loud, he will always find a way to avoid yard work, and he watches far too many sports. Believe it or not, watching ” Golf Academy ” is not my idea of a great night at home!

But somehow in the past 37 years Jack and I have learned to accept the imperfections in each other. Over time, we have stopped trying to make each other in our own mold and have learned to celebrate our differences. You might say that we’ve learned to love each other for who we really are!

For example, I like to take my time, I’m a perfectionist, and I’m even-tempered. I tend to work too much and sleep too little. Jack, on the other hand, is disciplined, studious, an early riser, and is a marketer’s dream consumer. I count pennies and Jack could care less! Where he is strong, I am weak, and vice versa.

And while you might say that Jack and I are opposites, we’re also very much alike. I can look at him and tell you what he’s thinking. I can predict his actions before he finalizes his plans. On the other hand, he knows whether I’m troubled or not the moment I enter a room.

We share the same goals. We love the same things. And we are still best friends. We’ve traveled through many valleys and enjoyed many mountaintops.

And yet, at the same time, Jack and I must work every minute of every day to make this thing called “marriage” work!

What I’ve learned over the years is that learning to accept each other’s faults - and choosing to celebrate each other’s differences - is the one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting marriage relationship.

And that’s my prayer for you today. That you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your married life and lay them at the feet of GOD. Because in the end, He’s the only One who will be able to give you a marriage where burnt toast isn’t a deal-breaker!

the child in me?

Posted on Aug 30, 2007 under blahs | 2 Comments
When i’m inside the malls, i try to avoid going inside the school shops/stores because i always end up buying pencils or ballpens which i don’t really need. I would still even buy stationaries. I buy cute accessories that my eyes catch. I’m very fond of them. It is a habit that i can’t seem to get rid of.

Last weekend, two little girls (my neighbors) went inside our house and saw my pencils. One of them said “Ate, ako na ni beh, kani pink ako.” The other one added “Ako pud ate, kani ako ang blue.” You know what i told them? I said “Ah ayaw lang, balik lang, palitan lang tamo lain!” LOL!!!!

o di ba cute noh? iskuyla na tah nah! haha!:P

i love pink

Posted on Aug 29, 2007 under blahs | 7 Comments
I love pink. (OK now i admit it!) Any stuff in the shade of pink is an apple to my eye. My younger sister would always ask me if my shoes or belt or bag should be pink? Well, it depends on my mood. It’s just that i feel that pink is my color. I feel good when i wear something pink. I love other pastel colors and earth colors too. Pink is just dominant. I have a little game for you.

can you guess to which stuff i took this picture? :P
or simply guess what item is the above picture ;)

runny nose

Posted on Aug 29, 2007 under blahs | No Comment
Argh! I don’t like what i’m feeling today. I’m having colds and I hate it. I just kept on sneezing, my nose already hurts. My eyes are watery and i feel so weak. I can’t afford to be absent tomorrow or the next days for i don’t have paid sick leaves anymore. Should i be absent, that only means salary deduction! Can i use vacation leave and reason for leave is sick? Heheh! Oh i forgot! I should save my vacation leaves for Christmas vacation. Tsk! I even need to save up some leaves for early next year. Why did i not think about it beforehand?! *sneeze* *sneeze* *sneeze*

My 5 Best Nights

Posted on Aug 29, 2007 under tags | No Comment
My 5 Best Nights

Rule: Name 5 best nights of your life and tag 5 friends.

So far these are my most best nights…

1. The night after i learned i passed the entrance exam for working scholars of USJR.

2. The night i passed the licensure exam for electronics and communications engineering.

3. The night when i arrived in Michigan. It was a work assignment but i’m grateful because it was my first out of the country trip.

4. The night i arrived in California. A dream come true to visit Disneyland. I couldn’t thank enough my friend Belle.

5. The night my blog got approved for paid blogging! har har har! :D :P

I got this tag from Bless. Thanks Bless! :)

Now I will tag 5 of my online buddies Glorie, Francine, Vicky, Aneshka and Ainsley. Enjoy!

my personalized sign :)

Posted on Aug 29, 2007 under blahs, gifts | No Comment
I work in an environment where the use of electronic or test tools is very high. Yet, we don’t have the ample amount of these tools when the time comes that everyone has to use one. Too ideal but we should probably have one each. Then again, that’s quite impossible considering how costly one item costs. It’s very annoying when you arrive in the morning to discover that your test set-up is lacking this and that equipment. It is time consuming too look around and see if there’s another available tool to use. To avoid the hassles, i made up a sign that stays put whether i have a testing or not. See below…

o di ba? the cuttest sign there is! heheh!

The cute mickey mouse holder was a gift given to me by my friend Belle when i went to California. My remembrance from Disneyland - all courtesy of Belle. I’m really a lucky fellow when it comes to friends. Don’t you think? :P

i’m out of quandary

Posted on Aug 29, 2007 under blahs | No Comment
I’m out of quandary. Well, not really, but the thing is i quite have said yes to my manager already. I sort of have accepted the position but then again he can’t tell me directly when it is effective. I really don’t like the idea of accepting it but i might just look at the positive things it could give me. I don’t mean salary here because that matter is super vague. I’ll just consider the experiences that comes along with it. Oh my god, i will be back to the thursday telecons and plentiful of reports to make. Goodbye freedom! Aarrgghhh!

sad story

Posted on Aug 29, 2007 under forwarded mail, jokes | 2 Comments
One night a guy took his girlfriend home. As they were about to kiss each other goodnight at the front door, the guy started feeling a little in the mood.

With an air of confidence, he leaned with his hand against the wall and smiling, he said to her
“Honey, would you give me a kiss?”
Horrified, she replied,
“Are you mad? My parents will see us!”
” Oh come on! Who’s gonna see us at this hour?”
He asked grinning at her.
“No, please. Can you imagine if we get caught?”
“Oh come on! There’s nobody around, they’re all sleeping!” .
“No way. It’s just too risky!”
“Oh please, please, I love you so much?!?” .
“No, no, and no. I love you too, but I just can’t!” .
“Oh yes you can. Please?” …………
“No, no. I just can’t”
“I’m begging you … “

Out of the blue, the light on the stairs went on, and the girl’s older sister showed up in her pyjamas, hair dishevelled, and in a sleepy voice she said,
“Dad says to go ahead and give him a kiss, or I can do it. Or if need be, mom says she can come down herself and do it, but for God’s sake and all of ours….

my thoughtful seatmate

Posted on Aug 29, 2007 under blahs | No Comment
My seatmate is really a thoughtful one. She never fails to forget about me. She just went home to her hometown in Bacolod. But of course, i received today my favorite Macapuno candies. She knew that i love this kind of sweetened delight. Her husband got her a copy of a local band album. What do you know? She told her husband to get another copy for me! Isn’t that sweet? :)

i will enjoy munching these candies later ;)

God Knows Bike Secrets

Posted on Aug 29, 2007 under forwarded mail, inspirational | No Comment
God Knows Bike Secrets

At first I saw God as my observer, my judge, keeping track of the things I did wrong, so as to know whether I merited heaven or hell when I die. He was out there sort of like the president. I recognized His picture when I saw it, but I didn’t really know Him.

But, later when I recognized my Higher Power, it seemed as though life was rather like a bike ride, but it was a tandem bike, and I noticed that God was in the back helping me pedal.

I don’t know just when it was that He suggested we change places, but life has never been the same since, life with my Higher Power, that is. God makes life exciting!!! When I had control, I knew the way. It was rather boring and predictable. It was the shortest distance between two points. But, when He took the lead, He knew delightful long cut, up mountains, and through rocky places and at breakneck speeds. It was all I could do to hang on!!!! Even when it looked like madness, He said, “PEDAL!”

I worried and was anxious and I ask, “where are you taking me?” He just laughed, but didn’t answer, and I started to learn and trust. I forgot my boring life and entered into a new adventure. And when I’d say, “I’m scared,” He’d lean back and touch my hand.

He took me to people with gifts that I needed, gifts of healing, acceptance and joy. They gave freely of their gifts to me to take on my journey, our journey, God’s and mine. And we were off again.

He said, “give these gifts away, they’re extra baggage, too much weight.” So I did, to people we met along the way, and I found that the more I gave away the more I received, and still our burden was light.

I didn’t trust Him at first, in control of my life. I thought He’d wreck it. But God knows bike secrets, He knows how to make it bend to take sharp corners, jump to clear high rocks and fly through scary passages. And I’m learning to shut up and pedal in the strangest places. Plus, I’m beginning to enjoy the view and the cool breeze on my face, with my delightful and constant companion, my Higher Power.

And when I’m sure I can’t do any more, He just smiles and says, “PEDAL!”